The phrase, “Everything happens for a reason”, is a cliché that has been most likely to be used by most of the Cebuanos with everything that is going on with their lives. Most of the people saying this line are Cebuanas, and most Cebuanas uttering this statement are those who just met the demise of their relationship. Besides our cold clenched jaw and sweaty palms, are we really turning into Confucius as we try to comprehend and try to grasp the possible reasons why faith and destiny placed us on a complete love roadblock? Or are we just using this intellectualization as a way of covering up our frustrations and depression?

It has come to my attention that every time a friend (or even me) landed into a failed relationship, someone’s there tapping your back and saying everything happens for a reason. The idea of this phrase has turned into a pattern that has been seemingly used colloquially as a form of comfort for a person in vain. On the contrary, during the saddest and worst part of your post breakup days, you just don’t know or even guess the reason behind it and all. As we can’t see the rationality of why our relationship has ended, it is safe to assume that we are stepping into a life full of random land mines that are ready to explode for every wrong step and decision you take.

Naturally, we can’t find the “reason” of the breakup not until we find another guy that we find to be more suitable for us. Have you ever tried hearing this from your friend, “You know what? It’s a good thing that he left a month ago. He just can’t see how special I am, like my new boyfriend can”. There you have it, most Cebuanas use comparison with their heartbreaker and to their current perfect man to find a more logical and acceptable reason of her heartbreaking past love story. So, are you like this kind of girl or not?