They say that change is the only thing unchangeable in this world. People change their wardrobe, their hair color and even change their mobile numbers in a blink of an eye. If change has always been customary among every Cebuanos and Cebuanas, would it actually be possible to change a man for what we think would do better for a relationship?Or are we hanging ourselves in a losing fight knowing that a man could never budge an inch?

As my question stayed on my mind for a couple of sleepless nights, I tried to give a friend of a mine an evening ring. Her name is Gabrielle, and she’s married with a man she never thought she’d spend her eternity with.  Although I know that “Gabby” was not really pleased with the overall personality of her man, I tried to ask her if she attempted to change anything about her husband and see if that worked for them. She told me that if I am lucky enough, I would be lucky enough to go on with a man’s 24-hour sports channel marathon and his wardrobe issues. Other than that, you might be pulling a wrong thread to spike out a world war hey, also known as the battle of “this is me, so stop changing me” drama. 

When we ended our conversation and as I hung up the phone, the question mark on my face and mind were still so vivid that I continued to ask myself if it’s an unchangeable trait is on their DNA or if I was just with this specific guy who just can’t budge an inch, therefore I generalized all men to be like him. Although we might not seem to change them completely into a different and transformed man, we just want to pull out some strings to make things a bit better to work on with. Yet we must always remember that pulling out some string are quite dangerous, one wrong string and everything within the relationship falls down.

The science of change may never knock an opportunity for each of our men. However, we ladies should also remind ourselves to look for our perfect match, not someone we can change to be our perfect match. But if you still think you can manage to change a man completely without dropping some F-bombs on each of your faces, then go ahead and enjoy yourself some moments.