The One Night Stand: Girl's POV

A city as grand and small as Cebu has never been safer with the pre-marital sex topic tagged as the “One Night Stand”. With its main principle, which is to literally screw someone and to satisfy your instinctual desire for sexual contact, its idea and practice has spread as fast as an airborne disease could ever scatter all throughout even towards the outskirts of the city. Despite the fact that the only things you can exchange through a one night stand are body fluids rather than the personal story of your evening partner, can’t we really cling to the idea of a possibility of starting something beyond bodily desires from a one night stand, a friendship maybe or even better our perfect match? Can the thirst of sexual desire also quench every girl’s yearning for a meaningful relationship? 

Although most people (men LOL) might’ve overlooked the idea of finding someone special through this type of hook up, we women had always been emotionally attached that we draw all our decisions based on our emotions and instincts. Therefore, it is not our nature to randomly choose a guy across the dance floor and bring him home just because our G-spot says so. There has always been an emotional background or some tinge of instinctual act that we commit prior choosing the guy whom we could screw.  So, are we really hoping subconsciously that we are sleeping right next to a guy to whom we consider in having a deeper relationship with? And yes, deep down we are (given the fact, that we were not drunk or with shrouded judgment when going out with the guy).

Yet as we face the light of the early dawn and we begin to realize as we wake up with a stranger next to us, picking up a knight in shining armor earlier that night is as fast as how we women can spot traits of obnoxiousness that turns Mr. Right Guy that evening into Mr. Wrong Guy in the morning. As it is inevitable that we girls invest emotionally on all things, I guess it would be better to put in ourselves on the personal story of a guy prior dealing with their body fluids.

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5 Naughty Confessions:Make A Man Happy in Bed

The only things that can be better for men than waking up on a beautiful morning with their girlfriend are the things that we can do for them earlier that night. As we receive our daily love and faithfulness from our guys, it is but right to reward them with some things that they just can’t resist. What better reward that can be than a good sex and kinky intimacy moments that can definitely blow your guy’s mind. So, how can we make them go gaga for us in bed? Here are top 5 naughty confessions from Cebuanas on how they turn their heats on when its recognition day with their boyfriends.

Act 1 – Entice them Visually

As men are naturally visual creatures, we need to give them a heart skipping sight. One way of making them drool over you is to play dress ups or try some kinky costumes on that your partner may desire. Try to have a weekly dress up session and play along with him through numerous costumes that you can count on.  One of my friends has sorted it out with her partners through role-playing, a friend, who is a nurse, would use her nurse outfit on trying to portray a sexy nurse role play with her boyfriend, with matching stethoscope on her neck and unbuttoning some parts of her uniform.

Act 2 – Find Those X-Marked Horny Spots

Believe it or not, like women, men also has their weak body spots that can drive them crazy once you start to cuddle, kiss or even stroke it. Being able to find these hidden places, you can definitely turn their normal night into a pleasure marathon evening.

Most of the time, the areas are located on the inner thighs, the groin, their neck, scalp or even their lips. Try to uncover these spots and use it when you’re on the foreplay part, and trust me, when you do this at the right and on the right place, your guy will sing hallelujah to the heavens.

Act 3 -  Do a Good “Job”

Another thing your man could definitely appreciate is when you do your “job” as how they want it. Nonetheless if it’s a blowjob or a hand job, you got to do it as how they would like it. For an instance, another friend named Suz has confessed that she’s doing the art of fellatio to her boyfriend every time it’s their weekend rest days. One of the many things a girl could do wrong when they are giving their boyfriends a head is that they suck it all the way instantly. Hence, every girl should learn how to be playful with this type of lovemaking to make their guys feel more appreciated in their own ways.

Also, when you’re doing a hand job for your boyfriend try to have a rhythm and never ever hold it with a strong grip that wouldn’t allow blood flow, as it is going to be painful for him.

Act 4 – Do His Favorite Positions

Although you may have read from other posts or books that you should try to experiment with other sex positions, but some positions are best left to be more theoretical rather than be done. Hard position can give you some muscle pains or spasms if not done right. So, try doing it how your man would love to and try to accommodate his fantasies. 

Act 5 – A Good Morning Breakfast in Bed?

If you’re wondering if this is really helpful, then yes it is. A good morning breakfast in bed would definitely seal the deal that you just made last night it’s more like of a bundle of joy after a party. It would really make him like he’s very special and loved. But of course, you have to make the breakfast by yourself to make it more special for him.

So there you have it, the 5 naughty confessions from our fellow Cebuanas. Try to do this and see the results. 

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The Un-skinned Cock-a-Doodle-Doo: Pro's and Con's

A discussion about deciding if a child should be uncircumcised or not is a definite no brainer, yet when we are being held up on a discussion about the same un-skinned topic about a sexual activity, everything gets a little bit unusual.  There has always been this pop culture among most local women that suffices the idea of having a sexual partner that should “cut”. But when we face down a reality among men that are uncircumcised, it never helped me to wonder if are there better things you can expect from an uncut guy?  Or does the pop culture of having sex with a circumcised guy stands tall with its evidences that guys that are cut are definitely doing it better? 

Let us try to list down the things we don’t like and we might like when it comes to an uncut guy, and comparing the list at the end to conclude if it’s going to be a worthy experience or another bump on the road.

You'll Like it Because...

The skin does not only serve as an outer covering, but it is the home of million nerve endings that stimulates more pleasure when doing it. For a guy whose cap is removed, it is said that he loses a 12- square inch highly erogenous tissue that brings about his satisfaction to a hundred times better. Compared to a circumcised male, the uncut guys are easily stimulated by our touch. Therefore, it would be good for us who spends most of our time wondering how our man can get it stand tall and proud. As the sleeve can be a good way to enjoy your male partner, heads up ladies as this not-so-useless sleeve also helps in the lubrication of the penile shaft that makes an uncut guy more comfortable and pleasurable for any kinky females.

If you’re also doing a blowjob for an uncut guy, then you’d be praised ten times better from a circumcised guy. As they are more sensitive to our touches, imagine what we can do with it through our playful blow by blows. 

You'll Hate it Because...

The first impression of it, which is some kind of new to our sight, definitely turns you off the first time you’ll see it. As we turn ourselves into what we see and what we might get, we have this idea that what we don’t like seeing might be bad also with its performance. Furthermore, an uncircumcised man has also this generalization to be unsanitary. As it has been mentioned in both the medical and the religious aspects, the idea of having your sleeve stay on a guy’s manhood contributes itself to be a lot messier.

The flapping skin also harbors tons of bacteria causing it among men to be more vulnerable to penile infections, thus making them to be more sexually unwanted among us. As it has been a pop culture for us local women to have it with a cut male, being able to be within a different setup could put our experiences to be debunked as well as we might not know about how to deal with such unwanted skin all along.

So, have you decided if its going to be an experience for you? Or you consider it to be not o=in your sex wish list? 

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The Telltale Signs of Popping A Guy's Cherry

Society permits the idea of a guy popping a girl’s cherry, yet the same norms were unclear if the permission would be likewise for girls peeling a guy’s banana. Although society was on its grey area when it comes to the gender’s first time authorization, the only thing as clear as a crystal water was the fact that most men had their issues doing it with a first-timer girl. For the same reason of concerns while doing it with a female virgin, will the same problems be equivalent to an experienced woman doing it with a young padawan? And what are the signs that would tell if we are bringing home a pup instead of a man on a bed?

1 -The "May I" Interview

Although it’s sweet for a guy to be sensitive to what we feel, it can be annoying if he keeps on asking for things that he wants to do. Last time we check, we wanted him to screw us in bed with his moves not with his words, yet here we are having our little press conference on some things that he wants to do. For a girl who’s a blackbelt when it comes to sex, this sign can turn our “get-laid-meter” down to its negative point.

2 -He Lacks Skills

Since you’re bringing home a pup, you can certainly try to expect your sex to be as dull as a flavorless fruit. He just can’t hit the right spot, and not to mention, he might put it in the wrong hole (which can be more problematic). It seems like you have to place an X-mark for him to spot your G-spot, you have to do everything for yourself.  Although every girl has their right to scream like an opera singer when doing it, but pleasure while canoeing an elementary grade sexperience level cannot be that optimum.

3 -Your "Are We Done? Really"-ish Reaction

If you thought that a guy with lesser experience can hold it longer for you to enjoy the moment, then you thought wrong. One moment you’re just kissing and doing some foreplay, and the next thing you realize, he’s done and already came. It can be pretty devastating for you to hook up with a guy who’s not even considering your pleasure. 

4 -The Messy Sheets

If you’re doing it at the very comfort of your own bed, you better watch out for some of his “spe-semen” on your sheets. No girl would want to sleep with her sheets with a full grown man’s juice on it, what’s worse than that if you’re using white linens then you can certainly spot the mark where he blessed. If you’re the type of girl who wants her crib to be clean, doing it with an inexperienced guy can’t be the right choice for you.

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The Whip Cream Trouble

As guys are quite very experimental on how they want to be pleased on the bed. We ladies are here as well to cater these wild thoughts into consideration and into realization. Such kinkiness has reached a level on inserting their manhood into various orifices they can insert it like an ATM card on a machine. Fortunately, women have their three major orifices that are like slot machines for guys to play with. Yet, guys nowadays are fond of putting it on somewhere where taste buds are naturally present, and believe me, the bleak problem doesn’t stop there. As much as we women would like to cater this fantasy for men, we have this dilemma to either take in the whip cream or not to.

Guys would need to seriously think twice before putting it in into our mouth. Imagine the consequences and sacrifices we have to make just for this pleasure – a cramped jaw, a gagging tendency, breathing through the nose with a thing stuck on our throat and a seriously troubled taste. Yet as a good girl waiting for her evening pleasure, we forget all these sacrifices for the man we love. Then and there, the guy would be pleased as he gets his head and we get our troubles on getting on it. If a guy’s whip cream could taste as good as a caramel espresso, then I’d do it for him three times a day, but no it doesn’t. According to a good friend name Jean, the taste is like a combination of rotten string beans and a tinge of chlorox, in a simple way of saying “it tastes horrible”. C’mon ladies, we need not to be hypocrite but sometimes our guy could need a little diet change from what we tasted, after all we are what we eat.

A friend made even a joke that if a guy would even taste his own spillage, he would then be in awe of how a woman could sacrifice that much for him and would give us a medal hanging on our neck that is going to be spelled with D-I-C-K. So, how can we try to make it a little less uncomfortable for us? Well, as I’ve done my homework so that I can enjoy this as much as possible, it has revealed to me that a proper diet could definitely make the cream a bit sweater. A pile of citrus fruits and the “no beer” policy could pull the trick. Or if you just can’t take it, then you can just tell your partner to warn you if its splurting out, that is so that you can easily dodge the fresh milk bath and still do it for him.

You know ladies, sex is supposed to be a mutual fun way of interacting on showing your intimacy to one another. Therefore, you should try to ease little problems with your man without compromising the kinkiness he wants. The whip cream trouble can be one of little problems that you can encounter, but we ladies are smart enough to do something about this. You have all the bargaining chips of winning out the evening escapade, try using one of them for once. 

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The Third World Promiscuity

As being defined as a sexual behavior that is characterized by the practice of a casual sex frequently with different partners, promiscuity has crossed my mind and tried to refer the said act within the local setting. With a place like Cebu City, the idea of a multiple sexual encounters has been considered as a taboo and can exceedingly cause tons of societal sanctions. So, how many is too many for a third world city?

Like a numbers game, the westerners have a complete thought about promiscuity and how they are gauging it according to the quantity of encounters an individual has performed. Due to some social constraints, it has been unclear among the locals on how to measure promiscuity based on the norms or set of expectations the city could offer. Furthermore, as I was trying to ask some of my contacts on how they see this issue, it has come to a point that the locality is turning promiscuity into the actual act of sexual intercourse (particularly the pre-marital sex). Yet, each of the person I ask could not give a definite number on which they think can be embodied someone as promiscuous. 

As I struggle myself to clear the waters, I tried to reach out and ask an expert’s point of view with this one, and I have asked a psychologist, named Tara, with the said issue. It was then that I was able to comprehend that promiscuity within Cebu City can only be categorized by as simple as trying to ask yourself if it is too much or not. Therefore, promiscuity is indeed a subjective matter that is being clutched by what we find of what is normal and what is beyond that. So I asked Tara, “So if a person should judge you as someone promiscuous, then it is definitely a hypocritical bullshit?”. Tara laughed and said, “Definitely, you know yourself better than the rest of the crowd.”

The turmoil within my mind was pacified and put in order as I was able to conclude that the degree of how a person could gauge promiscuity is equally proportional to how liberated a person is. Unfortunately for Cebu City, there’s a fine line between liberation and societal sanctions. Then, I tried to remind myself of why I am making this blog – to raise public knowledge and giving liberation to the Queen City of the South.

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The Myth, The Age and The Sex…

They say that the ability to delay a person’s gratification is a waving flag of maturity, so can it be true as well if we talk about sex? The times wherein we settle for what we think is socially acceptable, thus trying to inhibit our desires can sometimes put us into a frugal situation, however we would also want to liberate ourselves and quench for this sexual thirst. So, we try to comprehend and try to ponder on some thought on how often is being normal for a typical ripe Cebuana?

When I tried to approach and ask the same question on a girlfriend named Beth, she wisely told me that what she thinks of being normal is the borderline of what we want and what we need. A girl of her stature, a Human Resources Personnel and a typical Cebuana on her mid 30’s, can definitely enlighten someone like me who’s crawling on a gloomy staircase on its first step about the normal quantity of sex, she then  even joked that the number of sex is actually inversely proportional to your age. As our conversation went on, I realize that Beth was a little too safe for her answer, so I tried to twist our talk a little bit and asked her directly, “So what’s the number”, then she gave me a smirk and replied with a sigh, “4 times…” and the continued “… a month”. Then, like a reassuring friend I told her, “Well, it’s your normal range. What’s with the sigh?”.                

Then, Beth confessed that she could use a little more grease to fire it up a notch a little bit compared to what she is having currently, which is 4 times in a month. Upon her statement of the urge to break a record of hitting more than their usual quota, reality sinks in to Beth when she just stated that she could never ask for more when it comes to success in life. Yet, she believes that she is being punished for the success she is currently having, in her scenario a controlled number of sexual intercourse that seems to be like a prescription of a “penis-illinn” that should not be taken beyond the dosage.

On the other corner of Cebu City, I was also privileged to talk to a family friend named Shane, she was around the same age with Beth but she settled as a housewife. She is having her perfect little suburban life with her American husband. Both of them were sweet and were oozing with love to give to themselves and to others. Then, we began to talk like we never talked before. As our conversation progresses, I tried to heat the conversation by asking Shane how their sex life was. Luckily, Shane was too open and did tell me that her sex life was like a Year of the Dragon Chinese New Year, fireworks here and a big boom there. So, I tried to ask her the average times she was having an intimate escapade with her husband, and surprisingly, she gave a range of about 15 to 20 times per month.

As I went straight home, I tried to compare both Beth and Shane’s lifestyle and what could be the reason of their sexual differences. Was it the fact that Shane was married to a westerner? Or was it because Beth was the workaholic and the corporate type of woman? For every possible reason, I noted those down and tried to come up with an answer, and the best thing that popped out of my head was the fact that those two friends have different mindsets when it comes to sexual intimacy. The myth between age and sex is nothing else but the only thing that made us create a fence that stood high and almighty to keep us from what we desire – passionate sex.

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The Funny Shortcoming: Does Size Really Matter?

When we are brought to talk about sex and talking within the context of being satisfied with it, would the size of a guy’s penis be a variable? Well, it may not be a common mind popping thought among the Cebuanas (unlike the Westerners) but I would simply like to look into how the locals view this perspective as an independent element. Now, do a regular Cebuana find a small sized wiener a bit irregular? 

I have thrown the same question over and over again to some of my friends, relatives and even to strangers that I came across from the street. The answers came from them quite varies from how they perceive sex. Others may find it as a holy act that can be done after a matrimony, or others find it as something as casual as a commodity that should be experienced whenever and wherever they might’ve wanted to. These parallel definitions of intercourse have brought various answers on how a penis size should affect the satisfaction that each women’s desire.

For an instance, a close friend named Carla was able to enlighten me on how a size should be important on a casual sex. When I asked her how she defines casual, she said that it’s the buffet type of sex. Relatively speaking, it’s the kind of sex that is bound by the “No Strings Attach” rule. As our conversation got deeper, she told me that as she was able to experience a bunch of sexual intercourse from few guys, she told me that during each and every encounter she could then try to compare the size of a guy’s penis and how it made her satisfied. For her, the bigger it is the more it makes it hotter than the month of July. Yet, she tried to win over the conversation by saying that if the true-love-kind-of-sex kicks in, size does not matter anymore (well, I guess she never had her true love yet LOL).

On the other hand, I asked a somewhat younger type of audience. She was a younger sister of my best friend and her name is Monalisa. When I tried to inject the question through Facebook chat, I got a reply that says, “Of course, the bigger it is the better…”. It was like a wake-up call for me to see younger individuals to find and answer the question quite plain and direct to the point. Well, the answer may be direct but it has the same answer as to someone who’s older like Carla.

Then I’ve realized, no matter how time can seemingly change the game but could not ever replace the kind of players. Size does affect the satisfaction among women from different generations, although they have different ways of seeing and expressing this wild thought into a more socially acceptable way. Now, let’s try to evaluate ourselves and try to linger the same idea of how does a size affect a sexual satisfaction. I tried it, and here I am giggling into what my creative thought can offer me, then I say I’m guilty. If wanting a bigger size is a crime, then I’d be happy to serve my days in a correctional facility.

                                                                                                                                                                               

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